"It’s not up to us to decide if what we are saying if of use or not. We may never know the impact we have on someone else by speaking out and up." This is something I'm struggling with a bit right now. What to write and why. There are so many messages that the world needs our stories. And it does. But sometimes, for me, it tips into a feeling of obligation. I have written about painful experiences (some published here, some never shared anywhere), but I get tired of the sad stuff. It's too much sometimes. And publishing leads to other conversations (mostly kind and compassionate) that take me further down a painful path. And sometimes, I just want to shake it off entirely. I know it's up to us, what we write and share, but sometimes *that* in itself is unclear. What do *I* want? And what's good for *me*? Appreciate you, as always. The TMI/oversharing point matters. Whenever a friend tells me something very personal and says: Was that TMI? I tell them, with me, there is no such thing.
It's what you want to keep private, not everyone can keep their cake hole closed. Be mysterious, like Eva Stratt in Project Hail Mary. Speak to people you really trust, Mushroom everyone else (keep them in the dark, feed them s**t)
I'll watch your money talk, I might pick up some tips.
I so loved reading this Marianne; your writing is always so warm, funny and relatable. I stuck the serious/not much fun label on myself for decades and have definitely always been a good girl. It's taken me years to understand that I was so busy being hypervigilant, always making sure I was safe that I was rarely being myself. Now I'm learning to be me and I'm funny, curious, interested in people, light hearted...so many things I never allowed myself to be because I was shit scared. As you say, fuck it...just be who we are and stop beating ourselves up. Definitely love the idea of a 'lighten up love' tattoo...incidentally, Quentin Crisp said 'if at first you don't succeed, failure may be your style...bloody love that!
"It’s not up to us to decide if what we are saying if of use or not. We may never know the impact we have on someone else by speaking out and up." This is something I'm struggling with a bit right now. What to write and why. There are so many messages that the world needs our stories. And it does. But sometimes, for me, it tips into a feeling of obligation. I have written about painful experiences (some published here, some never shared anywhere), but I get tired of the sad stuff. It's too much sometimes. And publishing leads to other conversations (mostly kind and compassionate) that take me further down a painful path. And sometimes, I just want to shake it off entirely. I know it's up to us, what we write and share, but sometimes *that* in itself is unclear. What do *I* want? And what's good for *me*? Appreciate you, as always. The TMI/oversharing point matters. Whenever a friend tells me something very personal and says: Was that TMI? I tell them, with me, there is no such thing.
It's what you want to keep private, not everyone can keep their cake hole closed. Be mysterious, like Eva Stratt in Project Hail Mary. Speak to people you really trust, Mushroom everyone else (keep them in the dark, feed them s**t)
I'll watch your money talk, I might pick up some tips.
I so loved reading this Marianne; your writing is always so warm, funny and relatable. I stuck the serious/not much fun label on myself for decades and have definitely always been a good girl. It's taken me years to understand that I was so busy being hypervigilant, always making sure I was safe that I was rarely being myself. Now I'm learning to be me and I'm funny, curious, interested in people, light hearted...so many things I never allowed myself to be because I was shit scared. As you say, fuck it...just be who we are and stop beating ourselves up. Definitely love the idea of a 'lighten up love' tattoo...incidentally, Quentin Crisp said 'if at first you don't succeed, failure may be your style...bloody love that!
Karen 💫