I read your book on my kindle and subsequently bought two copies in Easons because I had to have a physical copy and I also wanted one to gift. I love that you are speaking about this topic and I loved your journey in the book. It made me very emotional and I thank you for writing the book. ❤️
Just bought your book. I love everything about this. My next book I'm writing now is called Midlife Sensuality, Sex & Relationships, redefined (my last one was called Midlife, redefined) and it's to help women redefine their relationship with sense of self (sensuality), sex and their marriage, post-marriage or whatever status. I am divorced and have been on my own journey of single and sexual discovery... and you've articulated so well how I feel. I want sex, and fun and companionship, AND I want my own independence and singledom. So thanks for giving me a name - single with lovers. Can't wait to rad your book.... xx
an thanks Alana - it's such an exciting time that we live in, when women can explore sexuality in the open, we can find different ways to enjoy our bodies... we can pay our own bills in the process.... good luck with your explorations. I highly recommend Jan Day tantra workshops. Also I'm sure you have come across Jenny Keane whose adult sex ed classes are game changers - she is based in Dublin and is a total JOY.
LOVE LOVE LOVE the book! I just finished it. It's brave, moving and inspiring... It had me laughing and crying at the same time, and frequently cheering aloud. Thank you for sharing your journey in such a viscerally honest way. This book is going to change so many lives.
This is just brilliant Marianne. I love this so much. It resonates with me and I am married with kids. I was single well into my 20s and honestly think I would have been just as content in my own company. I just happened to meet a partner who is supportive and respectful of my needs and my space. I think as women we've been deeply conditioned to have fomo by a repressed culture that insists we conform to one outdated norm (married with children). It's just wrong and unfair but it is definitely changing! I feel so excited to see pushback from more and more people in recent years standing up for who they are and insisting that there should be new norms. Bring on a more open and inclusive humanity!
Ooh, this really resonates with me. As a woman who always desperately wanted to be in a relationship but could never seem to find one in my early life I am now in the process of a divorce. I am looking forward to being single with lovers because I have no desire to cohabit again. It just didn’t seem to be the answer I thought it was. I have two lovely children so I would never change history. But it feels good now I am older to be able to reject societal norms and just do what feels right for me.
This made me want to burst into tears for so many reasons. How fucking liberating. I just wish I had understood this as a teenager. I often feel like a single child-free woman on the inside. How delicious that maybe I am allowed to be, while married with a kid I adore. Oh Marianne you are so bloody brilliant 😘
As a 38 year old single woman currently navigating a whole load of fears around not having kids and not being married, this is so bloody refreshing to read. When you think about it, it is completely bonkers that billions of people with diverse interests, personalities and values are all basically living the exact same life. Thank you for showing me that I have options and opportunities to love and be loved outside of the traditional narratives. I needed to read this today xx
Yes to this! I love that there's a term for partners who don't live together - Apartnering - and a whole movement around that. Then there's solo polyamory as well. So many ways to live a life of love in all its forms.
thank your for the retweet! I have such fond memories of meeting you, Angelique. I hope you are well. mx
I read your book on my kindle and subsequently bought two copies in Easons because I had to have a physical copy and I also wanted one to gift. I love that you are speaking about this topic and I loved your journey in the book. It made me very emotional and I thank you for writing the book. ❤️
Ah Lesley, what a lovely message. Thank you thank you thank you. I'll keep writing and talking about this stuff. mx
Just bought your book. I love everything about this. My next book I'm writing now is called Midlife Sensuality, Sex & Relationships, redefined (my last one was called Midlife, redefined) and it's to help women redefine their relationship with sense of self (sensuality), sex and their marriage, post-marriage or whatever status. I am divorced and have been on my own journey of single and sexual discovery... and you've articulated so well how I feel. I want sex, and fun and companionship, AND I want my own independence and singledom. So thanks for giving me a name - single with lovers. Can't wait to rad your book.... xx
an thanks Alana - it's such an exciting time that we live in, when women can explore sexuality in the open, we can find different ways to enjoy our bodies... we can pay our own bills in the process.... good luck with your explorations. I highly recommend Jan Day tantra workshops. Also I'm sure you have come across Jenny Keane whose adult sex ed classes are game changers - she is based in Dublin and is a total JOY.
Well that’s my winter joy sorted 😂 thanks Marianne
I wonder if you might like following Ruth Ramsay too - she is on substance and has commented below. xx
LOVE LOVE LOVE the book! I just finished it. It's brave, moving and inspiring... It had me laughing and crying at the same time, and frequently cheering aloud. Thank you for sharing your journey in such a viscerally honest way. This book is going to change so many lives.
Ruth, thank you so so much. Mx
This is just brilliant Marianne. I love this so much. It resonates with me and I am married with kids. I was single well into my 20s and honestly think I would have been just as content in my own company. I just happened to meet a partner who is supportive and respectful of my needs and my space. I think as women we've been deeply conditioned to have fomo by a repressed culture that insists we conform to one outdated norm (married with children). It's just wrong and unfair but it is definitely changing! I feel so excited to see pushback from more and more people in recent years standing up for who they are and insisting that there should be new norms. Bring on a more open and inclusive humanity!
exactly, Jacqui. It's all OK, it's all allowed... thanks for reading and for being you. xx
A great piece Marianne. Thank you for writing and sharing it xx
I know about being single from the other side of the coin, I got married at age 50.
Ooh, this really resonates with me. As a woman who always desperately wanted to be in a relationship but could never seem to find one in my early life I am now in the process of a divorce. I am looking forward to being single with lovers because I have no desire to cohabit again. It just didn’t seem to be the answer I thought it was. I have two lovely children so I would never change history. But it feels good now I am older to be able to reject societal norms and just do what feels right for me.
This made me want to burst into tears for so many reasons. How fucking liberating. I just wish I had understood this as a teenager. I often feel like a single child-free woman on the inside. How delicious that maybe I am allowed to be, while married with a kid I adore. Oh Marianne you are so bloody brilliant 😘
I love the fittingness of your surname for the same reasons I loved choosing my own. ❤️🔥
As a 38 year old single woman currently navigating a whole load of fears around not having kids and not being married, this is so bloody refreshing to read. When you think about it, it is completely bonkers that billions of people with diverse interests, personalities and values are all basically living the exact same life. Thank you for showing me that I have options and opportunities to love and be loved outside of the traditional narratives. I needed to read this today xx
I just can say AMEN! ❤️
Yes to this! I love that there's a term for partners who don't live together - Apartnering - and a whole movement around that. Then there's solo polyamory as well. So many ways to live a life of love in all its forms.